How empathy helps patient and healthcare professional communication

Working in the field of empathy and emotional awareness and helping healthcare professionals optimise their own empathic abilities for both the patient, effective practice and their own self care, I am often met with…but it takes more time, which I don’t have. Or, staff are concerned at staying with, what I call, the emotional data. But coming from a counselling background, I know the benefits of listening to those subtle little clues in conversation that canb21e2c0a-30bf-42b7-80b3-fdc5ba82ab9f tell another what is really going on….what their emotional experience is. In medicine this too can have positive benefits to the therapeutic relationship and on going treatment plan.

A study by Wendy Levinson, MD; Rita Gorawara-Bhat, PhD; Jennifer Lamb, BS: A Study of Patient Clues and Physician Responses in Primary Care and Surgical Settings measured how often clinicians took the opportunity to demonstrate empathy to their patients. They found that clinicians who offered more empathy had shorter visits.

When patients experience empathy from a provider, they are more likely to trust the provider. With this trust comes better listening and greater likelihood to follow recommendations and directions. This increases the likelihood of good outcomes and reduces return visits.

The report found that:

Patient clues were typically embedded in the context of a discussion about a health problem. For example, a primary care patient might allude to a stressful life event when a physician comments on an elevated blood pressure reading. This subtle, non-overt nature of clues has important implications for physicians. Since these clues are hidden in the fabric of discussion about medical problems, physicians who are busy attending to the biomedical details of diagnosis and management may easily miss them.

The summery of the report found that:

Patients offer clues that present opportunities for physicians to express empathy and understand patients’ lives. In both primary care and surgery, physicians tend to bypass these clues, missing potential opportunities to strengthen the patient-physician relationship

Demonstrating Empathy Can Improve Your Day and well being too:

Most individuals enter healthcare because they want to do good in the world. Constantly encountering upset, angry patients or disgruntled co-workers can really dim the light on that dream. The skillful demonstration of empathy can act to de-escalate the situation. If you think of a heightened emotion as a tightly filled balloon, empathy is the thing that can slowly let the air out. Bit by bit, with each demonstration of empathy, the balloon is deflated and the emotion de-escalated – for both parties. Knowing how to calm a heightened situation gives you more control and allows you to escape some of your own emotional wear and tear. The key to empathy is not just feeling it, but knowing how to skillfully communicate it. Support from organisations and the leaders, by demonstrating and showing empathy to their work force, is also a key factor in empowering and promoting the communication of the human attribute of empathy to be utilised for the most effective healthcare.

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Featured Article: Wonders of an empathetic ear in a doctor’s surgery; by Libby Copeland The Washington Post

If you’ve switched physicians in search of someone more caring or left an exam feeling unseen and unheard, you will find much to appreciate in Danielle Ofri’s perceptive book “What Patients Say, What Doctors Hear.” The shortcomings of the patient-doctor relationship are on full display as Ofri probes what goes wrong in the exam room and tallies the influence on the care we get.

We often think of medicine in terms of numbers and statistics. How many possible diagnoses are there for this mystery ailment? What’s the success rate for this surgery, or the likelihood of remission after chemotherapy? We rightly want our doctors knowledgeable about the latest treatments and side effects. But Ofri makes a compelling case that patient-doctor communication in the exam room is as crucial to diagnosis and treatment as expensive tests and procedures. Offering empathy, asking open-ended questions, involving the patient in a treatment plan and checking again and again to make sure patients understand are all key to making the sick better, she writes.

Ofri, a physician at New York’s Bellevue Hospital and a professor at the New York University School of Medicine, delves into medical research and draws on her years of practice and observation to illuminate vital aspects of the patient-doctor relationship: Good communication lowers anxiety, raises patient confidence and makes us more likely to adhere to treatment plans. Longer visits with primary-care doctors are correlated with fewer malpractice suits. Doctors who listen well are more likely to uncover hidden causes of illness, such as sexually transmitted diseases. In one study, back pain patients receiving electrical stimulation experienced far more pain relief when accompanied by a physical therapist who was a good listener. Research shows that patients who visit more empathetic doctors even shorten the duration of their colds by more than a day.

We’ve known for decades that doctors who offer empathy, build trust and set expectations help their patients fare better. As far back as 1964, a study conducted with abdominal-surgery patients illustrated what Ofri calls the “demonstrable effect of the simple act of talking.” Before surgery, half of the patients were visited by an anaesthetist who said pain afterwards would be normal and would last a limited amount of time, and explained how patients could relax their muscles to lessen the pain. These patients needed half the pain medication of others who didn’t receive a pain talk. If we are an over medicated nation, better communication would seem an easy and cheap way to relieve that burden — except that listening takes time, and doctors don’t usually have that.

Ofri’s insights are particularly instructive as the medical profession increasingly suffers from tight schedules, packed waiting rooms and tightwad insurance companies. With patient-doctor communication more important than ever, Ofri shows how it gets fouled up, pointing to unspoken assumptions, rhetorical differences and language barriers. And she’s not talking about nonnative speakers of English; medicalese is its own language, impenetrable to laypeople. When patients go to the doctor, Ofri writes, they’re inclined to tell the “story” of their illness, from beginning to end, while doctors are trained to look for the “chief complaint.” Little wonder, then, that research shows “doctors typically interrupt patients within 12 seconds.” The difference in speaking styles sets up an experience in which patients feel rushed and unheard, and doctors feel impatient about their rambling patients. Too often in exam rooms, we are speaking past each other.


An open, welcoming physician can draw out crucial information that otherwise might lie hidden. Ofri recounts examining a woman with a tense smile who described the pains she had in various parts of her body. After the woman left the exam room, she returned and, clutching the doorknob, said, “Doctor?” She hesitated. “ ‘Do you think it’s possible . . .’ She hesitated again. ‘Do you think it’s at all important that these are the same spots where my boyfriend shot me with a dart gun?’” The “hand-on-the-doorknob phenomenon is … well known to all doctors,” Ofri writes. “A physician can proceed assiduously through a detailed history and physical with a patient, but it is only when the patient is halfway out the door that the important information spills out.” Ofri invited the woman back into her office so they could continue talking, clock be damned.

Ofri seeks to humanize a profession often seen as haughty, privileged, uncommunicative and indifferent to criticism. She’s also sensitive to her colleagues’ resistance to “hokier-sounding soft stuff” such as communication, empathy and connection. “Something that simple and intuitive, something that doesn’t require specialised knowledge, can feel threatening to a physician who has spent a decade training to acquire unique medical knowledge…. There’s something vaguely discomfiting to realise that the techniques shamans used centuries ago can sometimes be as effective as our pharmaceuticals backed by million-dollar mega-trials.”

But, as Ofri’s compelling argument makes clear, modern medicine could benefit from a better understanding of how humans like to be treated when they’re at their most vulnerable — sick and confused and naked save for a thin paper gown. If only doctors could bill for listening.

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Communication styles, empathy and understanding the perspective of another, permeates through all areas of health and social care, including complaints. Using an authentic and thought provoking material, ‘A journey through complaints using empathy‘, can support health and social care professionals to better understand and work with those who use their services. The CQC Learning, candour and accountability report (Dec ’16) states that….

“We owe it to families, carers, their loved ones, and to ourselves, to stop talking about learning lessons, to move beyond writing action plans, and to actually make change  happen“.  Dr George Julian Special Advisor on Family and Carer Experience, CQC Report 2016

“I truly believe if more people within the NHS spent the day with Carolyn and C&C Empathy Training, it would fix a huge amount of the complaints and concerns we receive regularly.” PALS Officer

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